Love and Friendship

The stupidest mistake to make is to believe that the one that hurt you once will not hurt you again.
Clever qoute i must say and its so true.

It is said that LOVE is friendship set on fire. So i guess whatever is true in love has to be true in friendship also.

In love two people connect through the things they believe in. So is the case with friendship. You grow closer when you know exactly how the person feels and you, for a fact, know that the other person understands you in a way you have forgotten to. You start believing and agreeing to the things in a hope to try and understand a totally new way of looking at things. Now, I don't mean to say that you change yourself but you do want to undrestand them.

They give you new hopes and you feel secure knowing that you can be just the way you want to be and don't have to pretend in any way as that was the very reason they fell in love with you. You do believe you want the same things.

Your friends or "the one" become such an integrated part of your life that you cannot separate even an inch of your life from theirs.

Love and Friendship, both, cannot sustain if you cannot space out and if you make exceptions to what you believe in just for that other person as that was the foundation on which your love or friendship was based. It leaves the relationship meaningless.

The rational part of your brain keeps yelling that something somewhere is going extremely wrong but you choose to shut it up as you get too involved. You allow mistakes to happen and when you realise the intensity of what you have led to happen, you already have hurt so many people around you and most importantly you have managed to hurt yourself again.

The worst is when one hurts a friend when they are in love (atleast they seem to think so!!). The friend tries to talk you out of it but you pay no heed. You conveniently keep telling them "You will not understand as you are not in my place!" But the fact is they do understand and they care for more than anything else. But you never understand.

Love as well as friendship hurt equally when they end. Love ends when the friendship in it ends and friendship ends when the love in it ends. In both cases you are expected to move on and choose who allow to get close to you more carefully. But you had taken precautions that this will never happen, didn't you?? Then how did it happen??... I don't have the answer to that question yet.

You are led to believe that friends don't hurt friends or atleast you can be wise enough to see that coming as is not the case in love where you are "blinded" by it.
Love can, at the least, hurt only once but friendship hurts more than once because you give them one more chance ("second chance") every single time. One actually needs to behave like an "arse" to find out which one of the friends are going to hurt you.

Realize...

After I saw the news of the recent terror attacks on Mumbai all I heard was the sentence "Mumbai spirit lives on. Mumbai will come out this triumphant. The count of the dead has increased from 83 to 89." But what I realized is the indifference that people showed while saying all this. Being a part of Mumbai does not mean one needs know how to read and write marathi but having the virtue of coming together that defines all of us "MUMBAITES".

You do not have the right to say that all what is happening is sad or the death of "innocent" people is very unfair. Unless and until you wished that you were there in place of the one who faced the blast and not thank God that you were not present there, you don't have the right to say that terrorist attacks are brutal. Unless you prayed that somehow if you could go back in time and prevent it from happening, you do not have the right to say that it is very sad.

Unless your world does not stop due to this or come to a standstill, you will not realize how painful it is. And God forbid no one should face this sorrow. But I had to. My world stopped as my parents faced their brutal fate and died in terror attacks. I had to put the pieces of my father's body together before his cremation. It was very difficult. But life moves ahead and so will I, eventually.

I am now living my NORMAL life but I miss the touch of my mother or my fahter's scoldings or my mother's cooking or rahter their voices.

But what I feel sorry about is the fact that people still come to me and blankly say sorry when they see me. Do not say sorry or shoe sympathy because it is the right thing to do. Show sympathy only if you really feel the pain.

The indifference increases with distance as well as number of occurences of the attacks.

Realize that your feelings make you the strong MUMBAITE that you are today. Do not lose the "humanity" factor that makes you human. Please realize that whatever stand you take today, whatever opinion you voice today is going to have a lasting effect on the society.

The question that I always ponder upon is: How does one instill so much anger in oneself as well as others that he becomes ready to kill another life-form?? Be it an animal or another human being. Are we losing ourselves as human as we move ahead with our lives in such high speed?? Are we still human or robots driven by anger and thirst for revenge?? I think I will never find my answer as no one has the bloody guts to accept the reality!!

- A Friend

The one who matters to me the most!!!

There have been times in my life when i have said very easily I need to get a life outside, be independent and especially considering the comparisons made I have used this phrase casually than ever "I don't ever want to be like my mother".

Denying it will not make it go away or change the fact in anyway that I am exactly like my mother in so many ways that one could say that I am her "XEROX" copy (or "CARBON" copy). Knowing her I know she has made her set of mistakes and I have very different opinions about many things but we have very similar traits. Well figures, she raised me that way!!!

She has been there for all my lows, stood besides me giving courage and strength to fight the world. Now, I know its every mother's job to do that but I really feel privileged that I am one of the lucky few people who had it their way. She has an amazing way of talking people into believing in the right things. We can talk to each other hours together about everything under the sun. She manages to imbibe a new thought in my head every time we have a conversation. Now achieving that is not an easy job. I know, I have tried!!!

She has been my source of inspiration forever. She always says that I am the reason she still wants to be alive. I never really understood what she meant. But whenever I see her in the eyes I instantly know that the same implies for me.

She has taught me to be independent, to stand on my feet and to believe in myself. She supports me in whatever I want. She sees all her dreams in me but has never till date burdened me with expectations. These qualities are very rare to find in parents.

And to say that I want to be away from her being her shadow, I can just imagine how hurt she feels. I just want her to trust me with what she taught me to be and let go off me. Or rather I want myself to be away from her because I know for sure that I am dependent on her for everything and I wouldn't be able to survive in her absence. Putting it on her is just the easy way out!!!

It is very easy to ignore the role of a mother in ones upbringing but the fact remains that without her my world would come to a standstill. Just letting her know what she means to me is something I keep forgetting to do always. I don't want to go ahead in my life regretting that once, at least once I should not have let the opportunity slip by to say:

I LOVE YOU MOM AND THAT I WOULD BE SATISFIED IN LIFE KNOWING I WAS CLOSE TO BEING WHAT YOU ARE!!!

You get what you give...

Its “THAT” time of the year!!..

Every engineer anywhere in Maharashtra will know what I m sayin.. Its “SUBMISSION” time.. The time when every teacher is high, when every professor knows atleast this time around the students will have to listen to them and come to them to have their term granted…

Time for some sweet vendetta.. Revenge.. Oh so very sweet revenge…

The teachers very well know that the students are vulnerable to any type of torture now.. (physical as well as mental!!..) And so they don’t let go of any opportunity to give it back to them, what they have been tolerating for the whole semester..

Hmmm.. Now coming back to the students.. The students these days are very competitive and high edge professionals.. No one wants to be the engineer who only studied throughout the whole 4 years.. You have many of those lying around as it is!!!...... So everyone is involved in some or the other extra curricular activities. And its not like as if the teachers are not aware of it.. they see the students work their ass off to make the college event noticeable and make the college known amongst all others.. They behave as if pulling it off was a piece of cake.. Little do they know that its certainly the opposite of what they think!!

And the students don’t really pay dat much attention to the professors as it is.
Well, to be frank enough they are not as highly qualified as one would want them to be. Their knowledge levels are even worse!!! And their English sucks big time!!!!!! (I mean who says gotted it?? or diks for disk)
So as I was sayin, the students torture them throughout the sem and they give it back to them during the submissions and vivas.. 

They also like to make the students beg for correcting a piece of paper, for signing one sheet of index page of some journal which everyone knows how they have completed (Remember those endless nights of endless writing or rather “chapofying”..) And the VIVAS.. mock as well as final.. They so love to pull the legs of the students when they know they know nothing..

I mean you “study” the subject for months and years together and then you know what little you know and you expect the students to know it ALL in barely 3 months (if to be counted as 3 months… Its more like 3 days..) And then they love to throw around dialogues like (in front of d externals) “I told them to study and come during the mock vivas only. Now what to do if they don’t study?” Yeah right!!!!!!

I tell you I used to feel that may be I am the one who is lazy and didn't do my work properly, that’s y I am getting my ass whooped but no. Its not me. Its them too. I mean even the teachers are sleeping the whole semester.. And don’t tell me they don’t know the syllabus or they are not aware of what all is to be completed in 3 months. Now if you can't plan even that then I don’t believe you have any right to tell the students that they are late for their submissions..

One more thing.. I believe there’s atleast one class in a year tht makes a teacher cry atleast once in a semester.. If you are not capable of handling students 20 yrs old then may be you should not treat them like 2 yr old because ITS SO GONNA BE HELD AGAINST YOU!!

Well I am sorry if I came out very strongly.. but this is the fact and every word of it is true (I know everyone reading it is agreeing right now..) 

This hate-hate relationship is here to stay atleast till any one of d 2 entities decide to change.. Which I know no ones gonna… So better suck up the SUBMISSION blues and go write….. Enjoy..

Its soo true....

Through the course of time, I have learnt quite a few things in life. One doesn't realize these things until one actually experiences them and contemplate on what is going on.

I have learnt through my experiences that once you get out of your defined comfort zone and start realizing how life n world works then the mere existence of the people, who contradict what your experiences have to tell you, starts annoying you. The more people you meet the more you find another bunch of people extremely irritating. And its funny that once you actually believed in their ideology and thought all are like-minded!!! Then you start realizing how wrong you were in knowing and judging people. I don't know about people but it often happens with me.

I have learnt through my experiences never to judge anyone based on their appearances, on the way they speak or most importantly, based on their past life! Simply put I have learnt not to judge anyone. Because you will always be judged back and the fact remains that judging people prior to knowing them always leads to wrong results.

I have learnt through my experiences that some random people are always rooting for you and some random people have expectations from you. And you on your part are always “Expected” to respect their expectations and live up to them. This also means that if u have to respect d expectations of some random people, then u also have to fulfill n respect the expectations of your near n dear ones as they are the only people who genuinely love you and care for you!!

I have learnt through my experiences if people believe that ‘Pen is mightier than sword’ then I have started believing that ‘Tongue is mightier than pen’. What a written piece of paper cannot achieve, can be easily achieved, if conveyed properly, through speech. It can also be used effectively to make a point, to hurt someone or to make someone’s day!!!

These things tend to become so obvious with time that we start taking them for granted and the people around us also!!

Too emotional?? May be yes.. but its soo true!!!!

Female species..

Navratri season is in the air. Auspicious festival. Everyone is in a good mood. Travelling in the train is a different experience altogether though during festivals. In normal course of day to day travelling as it is you don’t know what you smell, what shampoos and conditioners and hair oils you taste, and get hit how many times and where. But festivals are different. There are smells of perfumes that would make Estee Lauder or Coty be ashamed of their products. Then there’s washed hair adorned by "GAJRAS". Now one can still bear the smell of gajras of flowers like mogra, jai, jui, chameli, etc. But these are exotic flowers with unbearable fragrance.

The major problems Ladies face while travelling is carrying their bags: one normal purse, one for carrying their Tiffin, one for carrying daily groceries. Now fine carry whatever you want but why shout at the college girls for carrying their college bags?? As we want to!!! They say it’s so much trouble. Ladies our bags give you as much trouble as your ass gives us. As you cannot do away with your ass we cannot do away with our bag!

Then there’s a bunch of ladies that like to tell the world that they bear the burden of the world. Yeah Hercules is on holiday!! And these ladies believe that other people travelling with them are responsible for their misery. Try saying anything to them and there are dialogues coming your way like "These girls today have no sense of responsibility. Just are oversmarts. Do have any idea how late I am for office? I am not paid for coming late. You as it is like to go late!!" Yeah!! They have not met our teachers who don't let you in even if there’s been a genuine problem!!

And I am not saying all the girls are not what the ladies say they are!! They are equally dumb. Now I don't understand why you need your boyfriend to come and escort you till the train door!! And their bfs don't seem to have any problem. All the more, they feel it’s important to go drop your "Babe" till the train door. Dude its not like someone’s gonna kidnap her!! I do understand that you are in love and cannot tolerate being separated but come on, get a life!! And then there’s that scene from DDLJ that you are reminded of when the train begins to leave: Bye. Bye. Call me ha. Ya I will call you. Meet you later. Bye my cutie pie. Bye my rasagulla. I would rather puke!!

Sometimes you feel that God made these females to prove point- Dumbness runs in their blood. It’s better not to waste your time on these creatures. Just let them be.

I just want to thank God for not making me that way. Hope I remember all this always!!