The stupidest mistake to make is to believe that the one that hurt you once will not hurt you again.
Clever qoute i must say and its so true.
It is said that LOVE is friendship set on fire. So i guess whatever is true in love has to be true in friendship also.
In love two people connect through the things they believe in. So is the case with friendship. You grow closer when you know exactly how the person feels and you, for a fact, know that the other person understands you in a way you have forgotten to. You start believing and agreeing to the things in a hope to try and understand a totally new way of looking at things. Now, I don't mean to say that you change yourself but you do want to undrestand them.
They give you new hopes and you feel secure knowing that you can be just the way you want to be and don't have to pretend in any way as that was the very reason they fell in love with you. You do believe you want the same things.
Your friends or "the one" become such an integrated part of your life that you cannot separate even an inch of your life from theirs.
Love and Friendship, both, cannot sustain if you cannot space out and if you make exceptions to what you believe in just for that other person as that was the foundation on which your love or friendship was based. It leaves the relationship meaningless.
The rational part of your brain keeps yelling that something somewhere is going extremely wrong but you choose to shut it up as you get too involved. You allow mistakes to happen and when you realise the intensity of what you have led to happen, you already have hurt so many people around you and most importantly you have managed to hurt yourself again.
The worst is when one hurts a friend when they are in love (atleast they seem to think so!!). The friend tries to talk you out of it but you pay no heed. You conveniently keep telling them "You will not understand as you are not in my place!" But the fact is they do understand and they care for more than anything else. But you never understand.
Love as well as friendship hurt equally when they end. Love ends when the friendship in it ends and friendship ends when the love in it ends. In both cases you are expected to move on and choose who allow to get close to you more carefully. But you had taken precautions that this will never happen, didn't you?? Then how did it happen??... I don't have the answer to that question yet.
You are led to believe that friends don't hurt friends or atleast you can be wise enough to see that coming as is not the case in love where you are "blinded" by it.
Love can, at the least, hurt only once but friendship hurts more than once because you give them one more chance ("second chance") every single time. One actually needs to behave like an "arse" to find out which one of the friends are going to hurt you.
